Closely related to narcissistic withdrawal is ' schizoid withdrawal : the escape from too great pressure by abolishing emotional relationships altogether'. If 'of all modes of narcissistic withdrawal, depression is the most crippling',  a contributing factor may be that 'depressed persons come to appreciate consciously how much social effort is in fact required in the normal course of keeping one's usual place in undertakings'.
Object relations theory would see the process of therapy as one whereby the therapist enabled his or her patient to have 'resituated the object from the purely schizoid usage to the shared schizoid usage initially until eventually Fenichel considered that in patients where 'their narcissistic regression is a reaction to narcissistic injuries; if they are shown this fact and given time to face the real injuries and to develop other types of reaction, they may be helped enormously'  Neville Symington however estimated that 'often a kind of war develops between analyst and patient, with the analyst trying to haul the patient out of the cocoon From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia.
Hjulmand, The Language of Winnicott p. Shaffer, The Blinding Torch p. Rosenfeld, Rosenfeld in Retrospective p. Raush, Close Relationships p. Denial Idealization and devaluation Distortion Projection Splitting. Categories : Narcissism Psychoanalytic terminology Freudian psychology. Leila may all your dreams come true, may all blessings of health and joy be with you and thank you from my heart to yours for sharing how you have realigned with your own truth… Bless you; love and hugs ; to you, also to Joanne, and everyone here.
So beautiful, thank you Tee Bee for your blessing. They seem so happy and back to themselves again. I have horses too that I relocated and they seem to be much more relaxed and colorful than before.
I really think the animals take on a lot of our stuff when we are in the middle of craziness and despair. They helped pull me out. I had them before the relationship and I could see the change in their beings too. May sound weird, but I really, really could see it. Now, of course all are well. Hi Leila, Absolutely agree that our animals respond always to energy and so take on so much of the chaos and pain of these situations. My dogs and ponies all showed disturbances and anxiety of different kinds and it is my deepest regret to have subjected them to this.
They truly are angels who accompany us in life and share with us a deep and boundless bond if we are open to them. Mine are also very much spirit guides and teachers- they teach me so much about being present in the moment, being joyful; acceptance and peacefulness etc… All the things that many of our human species have to work so hard on, read books about, practice etc etc… Both my ponies and my dogs daily move into a zen like state for short periods, tuned into another world, so deeply at peace and at one with themselves it seems… Sometimes when I sit and talk with them they drift into this state and it is pure bliss to share such deep peace with them… Hope you know what I mean??
So wonderful to hear your animal companions are returned to their full joy — may your time together on Planet Earth be long and filled with tenderness and joy and good health for all of you. I have been priveleged to have always had dogs as playmates and cherished companions but am newly discovering how to communicate with ponies and horses! Are you familiar with the Animal Spirit Cafe website? I love it; lots of interesting reading and inter species communication info there. Lovely to hear from you, stay well and shining brightly for us all; much love to you and each one of your animal family.
Now time to watch Alice in Wonderland; hope the dogs like it!! I really love what was said about our pets.
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I have quite a few, and they too were threatened. I am in the process of extracting a narcissist from my life. I now have a bearded dragon.. So sorry it took me this long to get back to the blog. I agree with everything. In fact, I was with my mare the other day and I was having anxiety all day. I put my head down on her back and draped my body over here. We both went into a meditative state and I felt whole and complete when I left the barn. And all of her books. That is so cool. Yes, I feel guilty to that I subjected my animals to so much negative energy. They were almost comatose the whole time, the horses, the dogs, and the other farm animals when I was living with the ex.
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I have to tell you the animals totally acted out at his place between comatose states. Now, they are perfect angels except for normal brattiness: You are so right that they are our spirit guides. Thank you so much for your replies!!! By the way, I definitely think a real lizard is better! Like everyone else, I am so grateful to have found this site. I feel a bit silly when I read some of these posts as the stories are hard to read. I had known him for 5 years through work, he always seemed like a nice affable guy.
Was in a long-term committed relationship. He was always very funny and charismatic. He came after me when they had broken up. Turns out they break up constantly.
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Usually when he wants to cat around. Sound familiar? What he has put her through, not accepting her children, constant infidelity, defiling, bruises, humiliation…Good Lord. I So wish I could send her a link here. So, I know all of this about his last relationship. He slapped me hard during an intimate moment early on in our union.
http://nats-bezpeka.com.ua/libraries/bates/bibu-conocer-al.php He was blacked out of course and an eloquent letter of apology followed. Twice after that he hurled unkind woman bashing words at me out of the blue. We were laughing just before that. Even went to therapy. I see now the stones were being laid. And I basically carried them for him. After false promises, a string of other girls, being constantly stood up, having ridiculous circular fights till 5am, I woke up Sunday knowing I would lose everything if I stayed in it. I called my girlfriends, my shrink and begged for help.
In doing so I accidentally hit call instead of delete and I know my name came up on his phone. I started panicking and then read this blog. Needed to hear every word.
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BTW, my hands were shaking deleting him. My hands were trembling cutting off contact with him. Thank you all for sharing your stories. My heart is with you. And thank you Melanie for shining a light…. Betty you have had more than enough wake up calls — clearly! Have you considered the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program — because that is you vehicle to target and heal what you need to.